Just this day, the "complaining episode" strikes again. It was too hard for me to deal with, but as every day goes, I found myself talking with him along with another "friend". As he was talking, I found something interesting about this person. I realized that the hate he bears for others would actually mirror the love he has for himself.
As ironic as it seems, I found great lessons from him:
- Do not trash talk. You never know how far these words can hurt someone.
- Think before you speak. This may sound like a cliche but its a great thing to practice if you don't like waking up one day and realizing that a good friend won't talk to you anymore.
- Learn to deal with your own insecurities. Before you start wishing that others can change their attitudes, start changing your own first.
- Look around and find people who cares for you.
- Appreciate when you are on the verge of complaining.
- Get some self-control.
- Think happy thoughts. There are just so much in life to be happy about, start looking for them.
- Write or draw when you are angry. Just do something that will destruct you from your current situation.
- Get help. People who are ready to lend a crying shoulder are everywhere. You can even find them online. Join forums and support groups. Knowing that you can relate to others will help you find courage in the situation you are dealing with.
- Learn to love yourself.
I know there are times when we can't help but complain, however, it shouldn't be a habit.
ReplyDeleteI like no. 5 the most "Appreciate when you are on the verge of complaining."
Before, when I used to complain a lot, I noticed how I sunk deeper and deeper into negativity. Also, I realized that I don't want to be a person who magnifies the negativity by complaining. I'm passing it on to others! It's enough that I feel pissed, I wouldn't want to make others feel the same negativity that I feel.
Great tips. Love yourself and you will forget your insecurities. Your friend and be a good example to others through this 10 lessons. Hehe.
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i love your post sis.
ReplyDeletei love your number two - think before you speak. a lot of times when we're in not so good situation we tend to say something we usually regret later.
Great entry sis! I'm not a big complainer, but at times, when the situation is really tense and my patience is put on a tough test, I just burst out and complain. I guess I should practice your 5, 6 and 7 more often. :)
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